i blame the radical feminists!

it never ceases to amaze me how in 95% of porn and prostitution threads what it all basically boils down to is that radical feminists are the problem. we're just these judgmental, frigid, woman-hating prudes trying to butt into everyone's blissful pornotopia and turning all the otherwise gung-ho women off of feminism altogether.

and even though the 2-10% of "happy hookers" who comment on said posts agree that there is a high risk of violence and abuse by johns involved in sexwork (but only to street prostitutes apparently), the conversation must never ever go there. instead, we must focus solely on how happy and fullfilled and empowered some particular sexworker feels about her career choice and how radical feminists keep pissing in her cheerios by questioning the implications of that choice.

if ninety-five out of a hundred prostituted women suffer rape, abuse and murder at the hands of pimps and johns and want out of the life immediately, we must maintain absolute focus on the five who don't. to do otherwise would be to stifle their sexuality, just as any objection to hooters ads on the back of buses or hustler club ads on the top of taxis is complete censorship (!) of the cock given rights of men everywhere to have titties on display at all times.

it's like the "but DV happens to men too!" conversation. even though only a tiny percentage of men are victims of DV by women, they're the ones we must focus on; they're the only ones we can talk about. if we want to talk about the overwhelming number of women who are abused by men that's an obvious "red herring" that we don't really care about women at all but are actually just full blown man-haters.

and if we want to talk about the deadly violence a vast number of prostituted women face, that's the red-herring that we're just sex-hating prudes.

apparently, if it weren't for us lousy radicals there'd be oh so many more ass-kicking women joining feminist marches, signing feminist petitions, stuffing envelopes, volunteering at DV shelters, fighting for reproductive rights, and so on and so forth. but no. because we can't just keep our mouths shut and accept every single woman's every single choice as feminist and good for the cause - without question - then they're not going to play our reindeer games. they're just going to take their ball and go home, feminists be damned. that's what we get for being bitches.

it was that radical heathen twisty, adored by many and reviled by more, who said "It is either wrong to oppress people or it isn’t. What’s it gonna be, assholes?"

it really is that simple.

and it's absurd how many feminist bloggers have closed up shop, telling us to stick feminism up our asses because someone dared to question whether or not makeup, high heels, BDSM, sexwork, et cetera might be tools of the patriarchy. maude forbid any of us ever have to question or consider the effects of our own behavior, actions, or beliefs. that's just downright oppressive!

seriously though? i don't give a shit if someone doesn't think i'm feminist enough or if my "creds" don't meet their criteria. i judge my feminism for myself. i claim the label for myself and i'll be damned if someone else is going to take it away from me or if i'm just going to hand it over because someone pissed me off or hurt my feelings. what purpose does that serve? who-the-fuck wins in that scenerio? you could tell me all the live long day that i'm not a feminist and i'd tell you all the live long day to go fuck yourself.

but if you want to "turn in your card" or reject feminism because a few individuals offend you for whatever reason, that's your business, just don't blame radical feminists for it. and if you happily participate in sexwork regardless of the consequences that many other women face because of it, don't try to shut us up by claiming that any criticism of sexwork whatsoever is censorship and anti-sex.