how many times do i have to tell you i loooovvve amy!?

don't matter to me coz i never get tired of saying it. i loooovvve amy! see?

What privilege isn't

Wow, doesn’t pointing out privilege make people squirm. Whenever I try to approach it with people who have it—including myself—there’s an awful lot of wriggling. "But...but...but..."

So for starters, let’s talk about what having privilege isn’t.

1. Having privilege isn’t some great big cosmic get-out-of-jail-free card.
2. It doesn’t mean your life is perfect.
3. It doesn’t mean you are a bad person.
4. It doesn’t mean you haven’t worked hard.
5. It doesn’t mean you don’t deserve what you have.
6. It doesn’t mean nothing bad has ever happened to you.

Okay? Can we move on? If you start squirming as you’re reading this, come back and read that list again.

How to deal with accusations of privilege
The thing that’s least useful when someone tries to talk to you about privilege is to get defensive and start trotting out all kinds of inane, poorly-thought-out excuses and reasons why you don’t really have privilege, why it doesn’t work the way they’re telling you it does, why they should feel sorry for you instead of being so mean, look at all you’ve suffered and how hard you’ve worked, etc. etc.

read the whole dang thing!

update: found this video via feminist law profs via girlistic and thought it appropriate here. the end part with the little kids and the dolls broke my fucking heart.