happy birthday to me...

my birthday is on thursday so i'm using it as an excuse to raise money for my cause.

the 3rd annual san francisco walk against rape is on april 26th and i'm $1465 short of my $2500 goal. if you have a few extra bucks to share, please send it my way. you can donate here.

thank you!!!

3rd Annual SF Walk Against Rape

Hi friends,

I’m participating in the San Francisco Walk Against Rape again this year and I’m hoping to raise the most money again. Last year I raised $1400 on my own, so this year I’ve put together a team and we hope to raise $2500 or more. The walk isn’t until April, but I’m starting the fundraising now to make sure we reach or (hopefully) exceed our goal.

Support me by donating here: BFFteam

Although rape is a very serious and painful issue to think about, the walk is a really exciting, empowering, fun, feminist, community building event and everyone is welcome. If you’d like to join my team or just walk along with us, you’re more than welcome. Or you can just open your wallet and support us from afar.

Every little bit helps and will bring us that much closer to our goal and all proceeds will go to benefit San Francisco Women Against Rape (SFWAR), SF’s only community based rape crisis center.

Thanks in advance for your support!
xoxo, jared

Support me by donating here: BFFteam

DV & Pets

Domestic Violence is another reason many animals end up in shelters. And fear for pets' safety is another reason many women postpone leaving their batterers. Because people who will beat, berate, and abuse their partner and/or children don't mind kicking or torturing a cat or dog or two. DV Shelters don't usually allow survivors to bring pets into the shelter with them either, which is another reason it's so hard for them to leave their abusers.

Protecting victims of domestic violence by protecting their pets

Unfortunately, there's another way pets are often members of the family, and that's when it comes to domestic violence. In research presented at the Fourth International Conference on Family Violence, domestic violence expert Frank Ascione reported that 71 percent of pet owners in a shelter for victims of domestic violence told researchers that their partner threatened to harm or kill their pets. One abuser threatened to bury a woman's cat in the lawn up to the head and "mow" the pet. Other threats included putting a kitten in a blender and starving a dog to death. More than half the victims reported that it went beyond threats, and their pets actually were harmed or killed. The threatened and actual abuse of family pets is part of what Ascione calls "a landscape of terror" in which many families are living.

Last month, things started looking up for California pet owners trying to cope with issues of domestic violence. That's because Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger signed SB 353, a bill authored by State Sen. Sheila Kuehl (D-Santa Monica) that specifically allows judges to name pets in restraining orders. "This legislation will prevent abusers from harming or threatening to harm animals in order to exert power and control over their human victims," Kuehl said.

That might be a little optimistic, since such orders are often not worth the paper they're printed on when it comes to protecting human victims. However, obtaining one may at least prevent animal control agencies, veterinarians, or boarding kennels from being forced to turn over a sheltered pet to an abuser who is the animal's legal owner.

Perhaps more importantly, this new law offers recognition of how much harm is done to family members when they are terrorized by threats to their animals. "Victims of domestic violence have delayed leaving their homes, delayed seeking safety, because their abuser said, 'You take one step out of the house and I'll kill your dog,'" Kuehl told the Sacramento Bee.

Considering how many people refused to evacuate their homes in the face of Hurricane Katrina if it meant abandoning their pets, it shouldn't come as any surprise that some victims remain in abusive situations because they won't leave a companion animal behind. In fact, Ascione's research found that fear for family pets keeps nearly one in five women caught in domestic violence from seeking shelter.

That's why services for the pets of families where abuse is taking place won't just protect the pets; such assistance will help get victims out of dangerous living environments by eliminating one of the weapons abusers often use to keep their victims from leaving.

[...]

If you're staying in an abusive situation out of fear for your pets' safety, there is help available.

Bay Area resources for pets threatened with domestic violence

In the North Bay, the Marin Humane Society's Companions in Crisis program can help provide confidential care for the pets of victims of domestic violence. They can be contacted at (415) 883-4621, 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

San Mateo Country's Peninsula Humane Society operates a Safe Pets Program that will provide care for pets threatened by domestic violence for a small fee ($7 a day). For more information, contact Scott Delucchi at (650) 685-8510 or delucchi@peninsulahumanesociety.org.

The San Francisco Department of Animal Care and Control's Safe Pets Program offers shelter and care to the pets of individuals threatened with violence in the home. Contact Judy Choy at (415) 554-9401 or (415) 554-6364, or e-mail judy.choy@sfgov.org.

In other areas

The Humane Society of the United States maintains a national listing of shelters for the pets of people trying to escape domestic violence. Link to it here.

You can also obtain information about protecting yourself and your pets from domestic violence by contacting the First Strike program toll-free at 1-888-213-0956.

Read the whole thing.

Hu-fuckin-zzah!

Polygamist leader convicted in Utah

The leader of a polygamous Mormon splinter group was convicted Tuesday of being an accomplice to rape for performing a wedding between a 19-year-old man and a 14-year-old girl.

Warren Jeffs, 51, could get life in prison...

He deserves no less.

Never ending blogwars...

I've stopped blogging for a few reasons, 1) because I've been really busy with work and the SPCA and my "real life" and 2) because I've just grown really weary of the same old blog wars being fought over and over and over.

I realize that not all feminists agree with one another or have the same priorities and I kind of don't give a shit. I'm so over the bickering back an forth over small and large things with other women.

There are plenty of MEN with actual POWER who are ACTIVELY trying to harm women - financially, spiritually, sexually, physically, and emotionally. I feel like my anger and resentment and outrage are better directed at them rather than other women who may or may not share their same goals.

Yes, there are women who are assholes and who are trying to fuck shit up for other women, but there are ten times as many men doing the same shit or worse and that's where I want to focus my attention.

So here are some things that have been running through my mind lately:

* Since when did they revoke a woman's "right" to pole dance?
* Since when did they shut down the strip clubs and end prostitution?
* Since when did they end racist, sexist pornography, advertising, television programs, radio shows etc. being broadcast?

As far as I know, the answer is since never. All of those things are increasing exponentially and becoming more and more mainstream and normalized and "appreciated" by liberals and conservatives alike so I'm not sure why the pro-porn crowd is so fixated on shutting up radical feminists. It's not like anyone listens to us or respects us or cares about what we have to say anyway.

Also:

* If stripping and porn are so "empowering", why don't more feminist women aspire to it and more feminist parents encourage their daughters to pursue it?
* If porn and prostitution are so "empowering", why do the majority of porn stars and prostitutes try to retire as soon as possible or move "up the ladder" into pimping instead of continuing to do porn or turn tricks? (i.e. Why is Jenna Jameson writing books now instead of still starring in porn?)
* If you're a "sex-positive" feminist do you use prostitutes? Why or why not?
* If you're a "sex-positive" feminist why aren't you a prostitute or a stripper or a porn star?
* If you think sexwork is so positive and feminist and empowering why aren't you doing it?

It just seems like in theory sexwork is AWESOME! But the sad fact of the matter is that sexwork isn't just theory, it's real life and women and children are raped, battered, abused, kidnapped, tortured, trafficked and murdered everyday as a result of the sex "industry" and men's demands for new, younger victims, and more degrading, disgusting fetishes.

No one is taking away your dirty magazines or your stripper poles or your HOOTERS girls, for the love of Maude, so I have no idea why there's such a concerted effort to terrorize and harass and shutdown radfem blogs.

Why don't you stop acting like the victim of radical feminists who have exactly zero power and focus on the TRUE victims of sexwork and work with us to end trafficking and exploitation and child rape?

"Sex-positive" feminists say they are against trafficking and want to help the victims who want to get out but whenever radical feminists talk or write about that, "sex-positive" feminists always seem to turn the discussion back to the so-called "happy hookers". If we were talking about ending world hunger would the focus always have to be on middle-class women and fad diets? Those who choose to skip meals?

Anyway, that's what I've been thinking lately, and why I haven't been posting. It's just exhuasting to read all the same old bullshit everyday when there's real fucking work to be done. I've been doing it instead of just reading or arguing about it.

School starts on Monday so I'm thinking about closing this blog. I don't have the time to monitor it anymore and I don't want to worry about it being hacked or destroyed by MRAs and their supporters like so many of my favorite radfem blogs have been lately. I'm going to leave it up for now, but you might want to bookmark any of your favorite blogs in my blogroll just in case.

Namaste.

Your daily activism...

It seems like you're just not anybody unless you're using sexual exploitation as a fun and kitschy way to drum up interest in your organization. Even the SF Bicycle Coalition is getting in on it.

From their July 17th Biker Bulletin:

Ride: Sex on Wheels

Which San Francisco streets are named for gold-rush era madams? What world-famous prostitutes' rights activist rode a bike to work? This whore-iffic ride, narrated by costumed, in-character docents and presented in conjunction with the Sex Worker Film Festival, will answer these questions, taking you from San Francisco's legendary Barbary Coast through current labor struggles in the sex industry. At each stop, we will meet up with colorful characters -- some back from the dead in full period costume.

Join us this Sunday from 11am-2pm. Meet at the Main Library's Fulton St. steps. Think of it as Colonial Williamsburg -- but along the Barbary Coast!

I wonder if any of those whacky "back from the dead" characters will be representing prostitutes who died from STDs or botched abortions or were murdered by a pimp or john. Somehow I doubt it. That wouldn't be "edgy" or "fun", after all, only honest.

Feel free to call or email the San Francisco Bicycle Coalition and let them know how "whore-iffic" making sexual slavery into something fun is to you and other decent human beings*. Thanks.

SF Bicycle Coalition
415-431-2453

Leah Shahum, Executive Director
415/431-BIKE x306, leah@sfbike.org

Andy Thornley, Program Director
415/431-BIKE x307, andy@sfbike.org

Rachel Kraai, Projects Manager
415/431-BIKE x302, rachel@sfbike.org

Update: I just sent my letter.

Dear Bicycle Coalition,

As a new member, I am writing to express my disappointment with your decision to promote/sponsor a tour of the Barbary Coast focusing on the "lighter side" of sexual exploitation.

I wonder if any of that cast of "colorful characters back from the dead" will be representing the thousands of prostituted people who've died from STDs, botched abortions, deadly pregnancies, or were murdered by a pimp or john. Somehow I doubt it, as that wouldn't be "edgy" or "fun", only more accurate and honest.

Recent statistics and surveys of prostituted people show that more than 90% of them are in it against their will and want out immediately. Currently, the average age of entry into prostitution is 13 and getting lower all the time, thanks in no small part to events like "sex on wheels" and the rampant normalization and glorification of "sexwork" across all aspects of daily life. (http://www.prostitutionresearch.com/faq/000008.html)

While a "sex ride" through North Beach might be "scandalous" and titillating, it does no service to and denies the realities of the estimated 600,000-800,000 people who are annually trafficked, internationally and across state lines, against their will. (http://www.state.gov/r/pa/ei/rls/38790.htm)

I would ask that in the future when you are brainstorming cycling events, that you bear in mind that not all of your members support the "sex industry" and men's "entitlement" to an endless supply of sexually available/disposable women and children.

Sincerely,
Ms. Jared Greer
San Francisco

*See? I still care about other important issues besides just homeless kitties, I swear!

"Serve and protect"...

my ass.

SFPD veteran charged in molest case

Sgt. Donald Forte, 58, was charged by Alameda County prosecutors with committing a lewd and lascivious act with a child of 14 or 15 years of age by someone at least 10 years older. He was released from Santa Rita Jail in Dublin on Friday after posting bail.

The girl was a 14-year-old prostitute whom Forte picked up on the 1700 block of International Boulevard in East Oakland on Thursday night, police said. The sergeant alleged agreed to pay her $50 and took her to Calcot Place, a dead-end street near the 23rd Avenue on-ramp to Interstate 880, police said.

I wonder how "empowered" and "independent" and "free" she was to "choose" the glorious life of prostitution, to be raped and molested by those who are paid to protect her.

Totally vomit inducing, especially after reading all the pro-john bullshit over on that feministe thread.

Everyone goes on and on and on about how important it is to listen to sexworkers when it comes to their health and safety, but apparently that only extends to the sexworkers who say what the pro-pornstitution crowd want to hear. When radfems want to discuss the health and safety of the vast majority of sexworkers and what they actually say, the ones who want out immediately, we're accused of disrespecting and derailing.

Well excuse the fuck out of me, but I totally don't respect a bunch of johns defending their right to a ceaseless supply of pussy and I'd like to see every last one of them behind bars.

Tell me what to do...

I really appreciate lists with specific examples of how to make positive changes.

10 Things You Can Do To Stop Commercial Sexual Exploitation

Chicago Alliance Against Sexual Exploitation

1. Work to help women gain supportive housing and jobs that pay a living wage

2. Advocate for shelters and clinics equipped and staffed to offer medical and psychological treatment for women

3. Educate young girls and boys on the harms of prostitution and how to avoid becoming a victim of sexual exploitation

4. Challenge society’s sexist views of women. Fight against pornography and other forms of media that continue to objectify women

5. Change language- stop using words such as “pimp”, “ho” and “whore” and challenge your friends when they use similar language

6. Support legislation aimed at stopping sexual exploitation and expanding options for prostituted individuals

7. Make sure the needs of sexually exploited individuals are being addressed in the domestic violence community, the sexual assault community, among homeless rights advocates and among individuals working to fight substance addiction

8. Pressure local CAPS and police enforcement to go after those purchasing sex instead of those selling it

9. Hold media and financial institutions accountable in regards to the ads they run that promote prostitution

10. Raise public awareness! Host book clubs, film screenings and art projects to raise awareness about the issue. Also join in local awareness raising initiatives such as the upcoming Rescue and Restore campaign.

(via Sam at Genderberg via Traffick Jamming Blog)

And the backlash is....

Men now free to gang rape with impunity. Huzzah!

Amanda: Thank god for Nifong and the immoral media! The hoopla over the Duke case has now made it quite likely that gang rape will be tacitly legal, because prosecuters will be scared to death to prosecute.

trailer park: I just can’t comprehend how this could possibly be seen as anything but rape.

Some adult gave the victim alcohol, illegally. Three witnesses can testify that she was semi-conscious, vomiting (unable to keep anything down), and that they had to carry her out of the house she was so drunk. They can also testify that the men were holding the door closed. Why would they have to hold the door closed if this was consensual sex? AND SHE IS UNDERAGE! How is this not a crime?? HOW? How much more evidence do they need?

The women who witnessed the assault speak out.

Honestly, I haven't even been able to follow this story because I saw it playing out from the first article I read in the Chronicle so I just stuck my head back in the sand and ignored it. Some things are just too painful to know about but unfortunately, there's really no way to unknow them.

Palo Altan:...Contact information for the DA, Dolores Carr:
Dolores Carr
70 West Hedding St.
San Jose, CA 95110
(408) 299-3099

Also, I found another number for her office: (408)299-7500. I called this number and left an irate message. You just have to wait through a very long message in many languages (yay multilingualism!) before you hear the beep.

If you happen to live in Santa Clara county (hi neighbor), make sure you mention that you are a constituent and will remember this case the next time she runs for public office. Your call will make an even bigger impact if you leave your address and ask for a written response to your concerns.

Your daily dose of horrible...

A perfect example of how some father's will do anything to hurt their exes, up to and including having their own child murdered.

Mass. Dad Charged With Hiring Hit Man

A father told a would-be hit man he'd have no regrets about having his family killed — even his 7-year-old daughter — but he did have some requests, authorities said.

John Orlowski wanted his estranged wife and mother-in-law shot twice in the head, according to an FBI agent's affidavit. For his little girl, Orlowski wanted one shot to the chest so she could have an open casket, court records said.

[...]

The informant was not identified in court records. During the recorded conversation, he repeatedly expressed concern that Orlowski might regret the killing of his daughter, but Orlowski assured him he would have no such regret, saying at one point, "It's got more to do with my wife than anything," according to the FBI affidavit.

My depressing sitemeter...

All morning long I've been fretting and fuming over the search terms sickos use to find my blog and then I found this which somehow made it tolerable.

Thank you Cute Pussy.

It's truly terrifying, heartbreaking, and infuriating when one sees for herself just how-fucking-many misogynist, child-raping, morons are really out there and how-fucking-many of them can't spell for shit either, instead searching for "free xxx child rape pitchers" or the redundant "illegal child raping pitchurs". Every. Single. Day. Dozens and dozens and dozens of hits.

If every fucking one of them dropped dead right now I'd be totally cool with that. Happy even. Coz see, I just don't have the capacity to separate the vile, vile "damage [they do] from [their] [so-called] inherent worth and dignity as a human being[s]". The way I see it, the damage they inflict far outweighs any worth, dignity, or humanity they might possess and the world would be a much better place without them.

I'm not saying anyone should go out and murder them, but if they happen to drop dead randomly, like right now say, behind their keyboard, when they click that fucking link they think is going to take them to a free download of fathers underage sex fuck, I'm not going to shed a fucking tear for them or anything. Good riddance is how I see it. If that makes me a bad person, so be it.

How easy it always seems for those who've not suffered abuse to expect forgiveness for abusers. Like Garrison Keillor said, "What harm does it do me?"

Which reminds me - have you seen Deliver Us From Evil? I watched it last weekend and was horrified and disgusted by the Catholic Church and all those greedy, lying, bastards who've covered up, hidden, condoned and allowed hundreds of thousands of children to be sexually abused by priests. I mean, they knew about the abuse for years, sometimes decades even, and yet they did nothing to help the children or warn the families and just allowed those monsters parish after parish after parish of fresh, innocent victims to prey upon and rape.

Earlier this week American Justice had an episode about John Geoghan, the priest who was defrocked for raping and molesting over 140 children. Of course, it took them 30 years to stop him because you see, all sex is bad when you've taken a vow of celibacy and the fact that your victim is a child and in some cases an infant is no matter. Sin is sin and none warrants more serious punishment or action than another. You confess to your bishop, he tells you to knock it off and sends you to a couple of therapy sessions, moves you to a new parish where you can prey upon other unsuspecting believers and life goes on. Besides, naming and actually doing something about all those rapist priests makes it that much more difficult for the bishops presiding over them to move up the ranks. Right hand of god and all that.

And apparently, in the olden days of the church, when priests were allowed to marry and have families, they didn't have this huge problem with priests raping children. It seems that the reason they gave up allowing priests to marry and instead allow them to (quietly) rape kids is to raise money for the church. See, when priests used to have families, they left their assets to their wives and children when they died. Now that they can't have families, they leave all of their assets to the church, naturally.

There was an especially infuriating part in the John Geoghan story where one of the priests who had been his friend for lo those many years demanded forgiveness for him. He thought it was a "travesty" and an "injustice" to the rapist to have been defrocked, prosecuted, and sent to prison just for "fondling" some kids. I think he even went so far as to call him A SAINT. No, I know he went so far because I wanted to stab my fucking ears out after hearing it.

You'll have to forgive me if I just can't muster the sympathy to forgive the fucking perverts and assholes who pollute the earth.

I guess the only satisfaction I can take away from having hundreds of them hitting my blog everyday searching for child porn and women fucking animals is that they find me instead and the links they click on show them exactly how disgusting and pathetic they truly are.

We ARE on your search engines stealing your porn links.

From my inbox...

PRESS RELEASE
May 11,2007

MOTHERS FILE INTERNATIONAL COMPLAINT AGAINST UNITED STATES

Mother’s day complaint claims United States courts violate children’s and mothers’ human rights.

NEW YORK On May 11, just before Mother’s Day weekend, ten mothers, one victimized child, now an adult, and leading national and state organizations filed a complaint against the United States with the Inter American Commission on Human Rights. The case claims that U.S. courts, by frequently awarding child custody to abusers and child molesters, has failed to protect the life, liberties, security and other human rights of abused mothers and their children.

“For more than 30 years U.S. judges have given custody or unsupervised visitation of children to abusers and molesters putting the children directly at risk,” says Dianne Post, an international attorney who authored the petition. “These horrendous human rights violations have been brought to the attention of family court systems, and state and federal governments, to no avail. We turn now to international courts to protect the rights and safety of US children.”

The complaint details several cases with documented medical evidence of child sexual abuse, yet in each instance the abusing father was given full custody of the children he abused. Several of the mothers were jailed by the courts because of their persistent efforts to protect their children from abuse, several were ordered not to speak of the abuse and not to report abuse to authorities. Every mother was denied contact with her child for some period of time though none was ever proven to have harmed them.

"My life was completely shattered apart on that day and my childhood was destroyed," said Jeff Hoverson, the adult child petitioner, about the day a family court judge ordered sheriff deputies to deliver him into the custody of his abuser. "It was as if I was just kidnapped. I was torn from everything I knew....I was made into a possession rather than a child." Hoverson endured years of trauma and fear living in his father's home before escaping and returning to his mother at age 17. He is haunted by years of feeling helpless to prevent his father's night-time visits to his sisters’ bedrooms.

“The cases in this petition represent the proverbial tip of the iceberg,” says Irene Weiser, executive director of the national online organization Stop Family Violence. “We are contacted by an average of three protective mothers each week who have lost custody to child abusing fathers. This is a nationwide crisis of enormous proportion.”

“The lives of thousands of children and mothers have been irreparably harmed by family courts across our nation,” says Joyanna Silberg, Ph.D., executive vice-president of The Leadership Council on Child Abuse and Interpersonal Violence, another national organizations supporting the petition. “The years of trauma and psychological abuse because of the courts’ failings result in lasting emotional damage to the children they are supposed to protect.”

Studies of gender bias in the courts, conducted in the 1980’s and 90’s, found disturbing trends of courts minimizing or excusing men’s violence against women, and favoring the abusers. In 1990 the United States Congress passed a resolution recommending the prohibition of giving joint or sole custody to abusers. Seventeen years later, the practice continues unabated. Ten years ago today, leading national organizations were joined by members of Congress in a protest in Washington D.C. to again raise awareness about the problems in family courts. Today, petitioners say, the problem is systemic and widespread in family law courts across the nation.

The petition seeks a finding from the Inter-American Commission on Human Rights that the U.S. has violated the Declaration of the Rights and Responsibilities of Man and the Charter of the Organization of American States and a statement of the steps that the U.S. must take to comply with its human rights obligations in regards to battered women and children in child custody cases.

The Inter-American Commission on Human Rights was created in 1959 and is expressly authorized to examine allegations of human rights violations by members of the Organization of American States, which include the United States. It also carries out on-site visits to observe the general human rights situations in all 35 member states of the Organization of American States and to investigate specific allegations of violations of Inter-American human rights treaties. Its charge is to promote the observance and the defense of human rights in the Americas.

Dianne Post, a 1980 graduate of the University of Wisconsin law school, has worked on issues of gender based violence since 1976. In addition to private practice and legal aid, she has taught legal classes and been a consultant working or living in Russia, Cambodia, Hungary and some dozen other countries. She is currently in Vladivostok, Russia.

Additional national organizations supporting the international lawsuit include: National Organization for Women and the NOW Foundation, National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, Justice For Children, National Family Court Watch Project, Legal Momentum, Family Violence Prevention Fund, National Alliance to End Sexual Violence, Domestic Violence Report, Sidran Traumatic Stress Institute, and the National Center on Sexual and Domestic Violence. The petition is supported by many state organizations as well.

In December 2005, the American Civil Liberties Union filed a petition against the United States with the Inter American Commission on Human Rights for their failure to protect Jessica Gonzales’ three children from their abusive father, who murdered them. Their petition, the first of its kind, asserted that domestic violence victims have the right to be protected by the state from the violent acts of their abusers.

View the video, review the petition, and read the shocking stories of what is happening in our nation's family courts at http://www.StopFamilyViolence.org/468

You know what else is fucking annoying?

All the assholes who are all "FREE SPEECH, FREE SPEECH, FREE SPEECH! WORDS CAN'T HURT YOU! BLAHBLAHBLAHBLAHBLAH!" when the subject is rape "jokes" but are all "You feminists are so mean and vicious and hurt our feelings when you fail to include a disclaimer stating that not all men rape or when you fail to include a male perspective on everything you talk about or when you don't make men your primary concern when discussing feminist issues! You're reverse discriminating against us when you won't allow us in your Dyke March or Women Only Spaces. I know we're not dykes or women but still - It's so UNFAAAAIIIIRRR!!! WAAAAAHHHH!"

However, the minute a woman tries to say that "joking" around about how a woman deserves to be raped because she's a "bitch" or a "cunt" or a liberal or a conservative or a mother or a spinster or a prude or a slut or what-the-fuck-ever - is fucking WRONG and offensive on so many levels, assholes start crawling out of shit-stained underwear to tell us to "shut up" or "settle down" or "just learn to take a joke". Fuck our free speech, apparently.

Well, to those assholes I say: Until you have something beneficial or at least somewhat intelligent to add to the feminist discourse, YOU shut the fuck up!

Just because you're a dude and you aren't offended when other men "joke around" about raping some "uppity" woman doesn't mean it's not offensive. Maybe you are just a total fucking pig who can't tell the difference between free speech and hate speech. Much like how most of y'all can't seem to tell the difference between rape and THE SEX.

FUCK OFF ALREADY.

FYI: Rape and Sex Are Not the Same Thing...

You'd think it would be absolutely clear but apparently men can't seem to distinguish between rape and sex. No wonder women are never believed.

XM Shock Jocks Apologize for Sex Comment

XM Satellite Radio shock jocks Opie and Anthony apologized Friday for airing a homeless man's crude comments that he'd like to have sex with Condoleezza Rice, Laura Bush and Queen Elizabeth.

The remarks were made on their show Wednesday by a guest the duo call Homeless Charlie. As the name of each woman came up, the guest said he would like to have sex with her — using language not fit for print.

Opie and Anthony laughed as they imagined Rice's "horror" while describing a violent sexual encounter in which Rice is punched in the face.

It wasn't a "sex" comment, it was a rape comment. You can listen to the actual exchange here but I warn you, it's extremely disturbing. And please spare yourself the additional horror and disgust of reading the comments which all seem to be from liberal men who have no problem with rape "jokes", but a serious problem with "copyright infringement".

It's disgusting how cavalier they are while laughing and joking about holding Condaleeza Rice down and sexually assaulting her. "Punching her in the face" and so on. Last I heard, holding someone down and punching them in the face while forcing your dick into them was rape, not "sex". Of course, I don't have sex with men anymore so maybe I'm wrong.

(audio link via feministing)

The sick fucks who live among us...

It's always about "free" with them. A brief look at what some of my latest visitors were searching for when they found me. These are all unique searches from different ISPs, mind you.

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It's disturbing on many levels, not the least of which is how specific they are in what they're looking for, but also in the deep hatred of women and girls they so clearly possess. (And how stupid they are. "Pitchers"? Evil fucking morons.)

Granted, there are numerous searches for "free xxx porn", but the overwhelming majority of searches I get come from these specifically disgusting, hate filled requests. It really makes me look at everyone differently now. I wonder if the UPS man or or the MUNI driver or the guy who owns the deli where I get my salad every day could be one of these perverts. It's so fucking depressing.

This is the sound of me barfing...

Some MRA linked to my post about Alec Baldwin's PAS war cry because shock! he's an MRA and is miffed that "uterofascists" are pointing out the fact that PAS is bullshit and has no scientific legitimacy.

He says:

OK, the message he left was a rotten thing to say to a kid. Show me a parent who's never said something rotten to their kid, and I'll call you a liar. Especially, God help us, an adolescent girl.[*] I've raised three of them so far (the fourth isn't to that age yet), and if you can keep your sweet disposition through it, you're simply not paying attention. My daughters would be the first to agree with me on that, in unison.

Excuse me? Especially an adolescent girl? Why especially? Coz girls are so much more trouble than boys, what with their getting themselves raped and "going wild" and whatnot? And his daughters would be "the first to agree" with him on that? Probably because he won't have it any other way.

And then an MRA enabler chimes in with this:

I am a female and I can tell you that the agenda of NOW is no longer to promote equality of the genders...it seeks power and control over men[*]. PAS is a real syndrome that is devastating to many. Please ask other bloggers to cover this story along similar lines.

If only! Last I heard, NOW was a liberal feminist organization, not a radical feminist one (har har). Leave it to MRAers to not realize how good they've actually got it, though. And they say women exaggerate and make shit up.

So here's a call out to you, my feminist sisters: please blog about this issue and it's lack of legitimacy so that the truth about "Parental Alienation Syndrome" gets out there and isn't left in the hands of MRAs. Fortunately, Mr. MRA linked to a couple of other "uterofascists" for us here and here.

[*] Emphasis mine.

I'm #1!

The numbers are in and I was "far and away" the highest individual fundraiser in the 2nd Annual San Francisco Walk Against Rape. I couldn't have done it without you!

With your help, I managed to raise $1400 ($150 over my goal!) and all together the walk raised more than $17,000 for SFWAR.

My goal next year is $1500 so look for more begging in the not too distant future...

Ten Reasons to Decriminalize Prostitution - a rebuttal...

Why come up with original content when Sam is such a genius and I can just copy and paste hers?(Her comments in bold.)

Decriminalizing Prostitution Can Stop Illegal Brothels, Trafficking of Women and Increase Public Health and Safety.

1.) If prostitution were decriminalized there would be no illegal black market for sex slaves. If we remove the profit incentive, we remove the motivation of the traffickers.

Decriminalization doesn't remove the profit motive from forcing women into prostitution because a poke at a woman's pussy, anus and/or mouth is still worth several hundreds dollars a trick and that's very incentive-full profit. Legal maids and fruit-pickers haven't reduced trafficking for domestic and farm labor.

2.) If prostitution were decriminalized the existing zoning laws would prevent brothels from opening in residential neighborhoods. Laws that apply to legitimate businesses would also apply to brothels.

Pimps who don't give a fuck about rape, murder, kidnapping and zoning laws now won't suddenly give a fuck about zoning laws after decriminalization.

3.) If prostitution were decriminalized licensed brothel owners would not jeopardize their business by hiring illegal, underage trafficked women.

You mean like this New Zealand brothel owner who sold raping privileges to 24 men who wanted to rape a 14-year old girl in the care of Child, Youth and Family Services?

4.) If prostitution were decriminalized it would allow law enforcement the ability to concentrate on determining and distinguishing between child prostitution and consensual adult prostitution.

The simple fact of age already distinguishes children from adults.

5.) If prostitution were decriminalized it will help eliminate pimps by providing prostitutes with occupational choices.

The occupational choice to be a prostitute is almost always made by the pimp, not the prostitute. She makes it sound as if prostitutes choose pimps instead of pimps choosing prostitutes.

6.) If prostitution were decriminalized it would help prevent violent offenders from remaining on the streets. With equal protections under the law prostitutes could report assaults perpetrated against them or others without fear of prosecution.

Cause that worked so well for the legal stripper in the Duke case and strippers everywhere.

7.) If prostitution were decriminalized it would promote the mental health of prostitutes. Many women involved in sex work feel ashamed because they are criminals.

And here I thought it was a neverending line of men dumping their semen into prostituted women like toilets before beating/burning/choking/slashing/kicking the living shit out of them that caused their PTSD, but no, it's just the same stigma of criminalization that makes marijuana dealers commit suicide regularly and not the gobs of violence tricks and pimps heap on prostituted women making them suicidal in skewed numbers.

8.) If prostitution were decriminalized it would improve health education, STD and AIDS prevention outreach. Education will allow people to make safer choices about sexual health. Police using condoms as evidence of a crime does not promote safe sex.

These things not only can be greatly improved without allowing men unlimited sexual access to women, but since the global health community has pegged "male sexual predation" as the core problem of AIDS then honest sex ed combined with reducing male sexual predation in all its forms, including prostitution, would go much further in reducing not only AIDS but the rape, incest, and marital infidelity that men's belief in their entitlement to sex breeds.

9.) Laws against prostitution have no effect on demand, but have a profound effect on the safety of sex workers and society as a whole.

If British men can learn to double their demand for prostitutes in ten years (1995-2005) then it follows that British men can also learn to reduce their use of prostitutes in ten years. If men's demand can go up then men's demand can go down, and there's plenty of research refuting the myth of men's immovable tricking behaviors. http://www.plosone.org/article/fetchArticle.action?articleURI=info:doi/10.1371/journal.pone.0000060

10.) A criminal record impedes mobility from the sex industry to other occupations. If prostitution were decriminalized sex workers would be able to move from one occupation to another without discrimination.

Ah, the beauty of the Swedish model shines its Promethean light again.

We did it!

It was hot and we were sweaty but we made it all the way to the end. I'm not sure what the total amount raised was but I'll keep you posted.

It was a beautiful day in San Francisco and we felt strong and brave and amazing and we were inspired by all of the wonderful folks who walked with us. Next year it'll be even BIGGER!

You can see the fabulosity for yourself right here.

Tomorrow's the big day!

I'm moving this to the top coz, Yay Me!

I can't seem to stop bragging that I managed to raise $1400 this year, nearly twice as much as I raised last year. I really hope I'm the highest individual fundraiser. We don't win any prizes or anything, I just want them to love me the most. Hee!

No matter where I land in the fundraising spectrum though, I couldn't have done it without you. Thanks so much to everyone who donated and to everyone who has encouraged me and given their support. San Francisco Women Against Rape (SFWAR) is an incredible organization and they've helped a lot of people. (It will be a beautiful day when their services are no longer needed though.)

One by one, we are making a difference and I thank each and every one of you for the courage and inspiration I derive from you daily. We really are fighting the good fight, TOGETHER!



Although I've reached my goal, you can still donate if you'd like to, or join us on the walk. Everyone is welcome and encourgaged to show your support and solidarity with women. Hope to see some of you there!